We're on the other side of our world to find seclusion and a change of scenery. To nurture a sense of adventure and romance. To rekindle dreams as a married couple and sketch out our game plan for this year.
The one thing I'm praying this year is that Wes and I would grow, evolve, and change together. That we wouldn't get ahead of one another, but steadily, condistenliy, and in unity move together. In terms of our pace, heart, perspectives, attitudes, goals and dreams.
It would be naive of me to not realize that we are changing beings and for us, well, we have changed since the time we got married.
Our thinking has evolved, our wisdom has deepened, our perspective has widened. We've learned from our mistakes, and from our wins.
Our passions have evolved, and so have our dreams. We've calmed down in some areas, while in other areas we've become more of aggressive in and attentive to.
We've learned our time on earth will present every opportunity for us to question our life and the meaning there of, to force us to constantly choose how we respond to life happenings, to test our perspectives and attitudes, and to examine our truths beyond the trends and fads.
You might realize, like us, through these opportunities and experiences... you change.
It's true, living life changes you.
Better yet, life with Jesus changes you for the best. Through the processes of life you discover a lot. It is a journey and as married person, the goal is to live it together... The adventure, the journey, the ups and the downs, and through the mundanes.
And yet, the goal also isn't to stay the same. The goal is to grow and to grow better together, because change, when changed for the better, is good.
The reality is, far too often couples do change, but not for the better.
Instead of changing and growing together, they grow apart. Somewhere in middle of living, life draws them apart...
I'm realizing it's a conscious effort, a daily decision, an intentional one to choose to take step by step and stride by stride together.
It's interesting how our priorities have changed over the years...
Eight years ago, at the beginning, we focused more on WHERE and WHAT we wanted to do in life. (Which isn't bad)
Eight years later, our focus has become more and more about WHO we want to become. And not just now, but the people we wish to be years down the road.
The truth is, want to grow into who we wish to become.
having a quiet confidence in the Lord
ok with obscurity
ok with not getting our way
scencere and genuine
simple and uncomplicated
To name a few...
We think about these things more than where we are going these days, knowing that in confidence of the Lord, he will always lead us to the right places.
That alone brings such an ease, comfort and rest in our marriage... knowing that as we focus on becoming exactly who God intended us to be, that he will guide towards all he has called us to do, and in the perfect order and timing.
A scripture we've been thinking on for our marriage, is found in Proverbs 17:1. It says, "Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting--and conflict."
It's true that you can gain the world but loose your soul, and even at the cost of your most important relationships.
The picture Proverbs portrays isn't glamorous, or sexy, or exciting. Instead it is simple, it's meager, it's unassuming. I mean, really, who wants a dry crust to eat?? I certainly don't go in my pantry looking for a dry crust, I'm looking for the steak in the fridge!
I guess my point being, Wes and I are not in it for the "feasting," the glamor, the party, the indulgence, because it's all so fickle. I'm not against the feasting, it's just when the other stuff takes you away from the important things in your life... like God, like your marriage, like your family.
We want what lasts. A marriage that last, and one that is fulfilling. We'd be more than happy with a dry crust to eat, if it meant keeping our marriage.
I heard a message by Jocye Meyers that I love. She said a prayer she prays often goes like this, "God, please don't give me anything that's going to make me think I'm more important than I am. Don't give me anything that will ever take me away from you. And if I try to get something that isn't your will, slam the door in my face."
I think it's prayers like this I have adopted not only for my personal life, but also for my marriage.
"Lord, don't give us anything that will, number one, take us away from you, but also, number two, that will take us away from each other. We want the way of life that keeps us grounded, humble, and steady in you... we want to choose the path that will last."
I've seen enough couples choose, without knowing it, other things over their marriage... their careers, their dreams, their busy schedule, their agendas... and in the little decisions over time, they have just chosen the "feasting" over their relationship.
We're ok with simple, we're ok with little, we're ok the unassuming, if it means we are close with God and close with each other.
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